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Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Why Donating Hair is a Crock

There are many things that people find offensive. Some are offended by words or images, but there are a wide variety of other things that can be offensive to certain people. One of the main things that I find so very offensive if when people ask me when (not if) I am going to donate my hair to Locks of Love. It gets worse when people are then angry at my response ("I don't plan to donate") and then even have the nerve to call me selfish for doing what I want with my hair (growing it). These people have no idea what I do in my spare time, the hours I have given to working with the elderly who have dementia, the effort I have put into getting my hair where it is and the plans I have for it in the future.

What is worse, to me, is that they always suggest the same thing. "Donate it so that a kid with cancer can have a wig!" Really? You still think that a child with cancer will end up with my hair as part of their wig? Sadly, they are mistaken, but my words will fall on deaf ears as they still see me as someone who is just selfish.

So what is so wrong with donating hair to charity? Nothing, if you are looking to get out of paying the $15 for a hair cut. With most of the donating things that happen, that is the only good outcome that will come of it. Few places actually get wigs to children, and far fewer of them will be children with cancer, and even fewer of them will be given away instead of paid for.

Below are some examples from different sources about the subject.


... although charities have been highly effective at stirring the passions of donors, they have been less successful at finding a use for the mountains of hair sent to them as a result. As much as 80 percent of the hair donated to Locks of Love, the best known of the charities, is unusable for its wigs, the group says. Many people are unaware of the hair donation guidelines and send in hair that is gray, wet or moldy, too short, or too processed, some of which is immediately thrown away. Even hair that survives the winnowing may not go to the gravely ill, but may be sold to help pay for charities’ organizational costs.
At the headquarters of Locks of Love in Lake Worth, Fla., the hair deluge — up to 2,000 individual donations a week — can be daunting for the small staff of six employees and 10 to 15 volunteers.
“We created this monster because people get so much from it,” said Madonna Coffman, the president of Locks of Love. “They get the attention. They get a warm and fuzzy feeling. They feel they’re going to help a child.”
Locks of Love sends the best of the hair it receives to a wig manufacturer, Taylormade Hair Replacement in Millbrae, Calif., which weeds through the selection still further, rejecting up to half.
“We hate throwing it away but ultimately we have to clear the place out,” said Greg Taylor, the president and owner of Taylormade. “There is a disparity between the hundreds and hundreds of braids and ponytails and the number of hairpieces we’ve produced.”
Mr. Taylor sells the wigs wholesale to Locks of Love for less than $1,000. Since the charity began in December 1997, it has provided about 2,000 wigs to recipients for free or a reduced price. The group makes clear in its literature and on its Web site that most of the wig recipients are not children with cancer. Rather, they are children who suffer from alopecia areata, an autoimmune disorder that destroys follicles and results in hair loss. About 2 percent of the population, including half a million children, are estimated to have alopecia.
But many alopecia sufferers seem unaware that they are the group’s main priority; only about 10 apply for a wig each week, Ms. Coffman said. Many donors, too, seem ignorant or only partly aware of the group’s focus. Maggie Varney, a hairdresser and owner of a salon in St. Clair Shores, Mich., said she was shocked to learn that hair she collected from her clients and sent to Locks of Love was not used for wigs for children with cancer.
The idea that donated hair can benefit a gravely ill woman or child is so pervasive that some long-haired people even report being harassed for not chopping off their locks. Heidi Woeller, 47, an administrative assistant at a hardware company in DeKalb, Ill., whose hair reaches the back of her calves when worn loose, recalled that at an antiques fair last summer two women asked if she intended to donate. When she said no, they berated her, insisting she set an example. “They’re basically asking, ‘What are your charitable intentions this year?’ ” Ms. Woeller said.
                                                                                            Elizabeth Hayt, The New York Times, 2007
They seem to have edited their website, so that they removed a lot of the numbers that we put together to figure out what is going on.
From this page [http://www.locksoflove.org/press.html], they say that they were founded in 1989, and that they have served "over 2000" children. For the math, I'll say 2500, since that's the next number they're likely to round off to. The total is probably under 3000, or else they've said "over 3000." Since they were founded in 1989, they've been in existance for 17 years, in which to do this work. Some of the children probably have gotten more than one wig, so lets say, 3000 wigs.
In a previous version of their website, they said they received 2000 hair donations a week. However, they probably didn't get so many over their whole existence (starting from zero), so I'll say an average of 1000 per week, over their existence.
At some point they posted that they needed 6-10 donations per wig. I'll go with 10.
So these are the numbers I'll use to figure out how much hair goes into the wigs.
1000 donations a week
10 donations per wig
15 years
3000 wigs
1000 donations a week x 52 weeks in a year x 15 years is 780,000 donations.

780,000 donations, with 10 donations per wig, would be hair for 78,000 wigs.

They've probably made about 3000 wigs, from donations sufficient to make 78,000. That is about 3.8% of the hair received going to wigs.

That's a scam, at least from the hair donors point of view.

People are donating their hair to go into wigs, not to be sold, thrown out, or left sitting in a warehouse. People are being pressured to cut their hair for donation, by people who think the hair will go into wigs for sick kids.

Locks of Love is saying "give us your hair, we'll make it into a wig for a sick kid." And overall, that's a lie.

And it is a lie that leads to many of us being pressured to cut our hair when we don't want to.

And that's why many people here don't like Locks of Love.
                                                                                    Anonymous, The Long Hair Community*, 2008

 *Not all persons at the Long Hair Community or similar support sites are against the donation of hair to the right cause. However, Locks of Love is often referred to as "LoL" on that and similar support sites for a reason, and not just to abbreviate their name into initials.

I have two problems with the whole donation issue:
A) Companies flat out LIE to get people to donate. They lie about the state of the hair they need, how much they need for a single wig, they lie about who the donations will go to and they GUILT TRIP people into donating. It’s not just LoL [Locks of Love].
B) But hey, say that didn’t lie: You know what people with a sickness want? What little children with cancer want? A cure. And if they can’t have THAT, you know what they want then? Blood donors. Bone marrow donors. Volunteers donating their time to make life tolerable for sick people and bring a ray of sunshine in their lives. Money for doctors, nurses and caretakers. Money towards education and awareness programs. Money towards studies and science.
I have a huge freaking problem with people who think they have “saved a little girl with cancer, yay!” because they haven’t [when it comes to donating hair]. All they have done is do a big fat public stunt to make themselves look good. It’s completely selfish. “Look how deep and totally non-shallow I am! Sitting here in the spotlight and being totally deep and totally non-shallow and saving a little girl with cancer!” How about donating money? Time? Blood? Bone marrow? Maybe a kidney? No, no, what was I thinking. That doesn’t come with 15 minutes basking in the spotlight, because that is ACTUALLY helping someone. Directly. Not just indirectly by giving you the chance of maybe, just maybe, your hair is in a state where it’s actually useful for a wig to cover up someone’s temporary baldness.
                                                                        Ida Frøslev Pedersen, Friend and Fellow Rapunzel, 2012


The next time you see a person with long hair, don't assume they will want to donate it to a scam and don't assume they don't do anything to help people. Instead, ask yourself "What have I done to help recently?"


Mermaid Care for Mermaid Hair

Introduction
The care of one's hair is up to them; whether they love it or abuse it is in the hands of the hair grower. No matter the length, there are women, and men, looking for ways to better take care of their hair and bring out the best in it. This is not as much of a challenge for short hair as long hair. With someone keeping their hair short, they can cut off what is damage and not have to worry as much about the lasting effects of harmful dyes or other treatments to the hair itself.

Those of us who want long hair, and to me long hair is anything past waist, the hair must be treated well and protected from excess damage. The following hair care routines are the ones I follow. These work for me, but they are by no means perfect for everyone. If you are looking for how to improve your hair's health and condition, you may use these as a starting place. Good luck!

General Hair Care Routine
The general hair care routine is what I do throughout the week. It does vary some as some products that are new (or at least new to me) may be tried out and experimented with. However, more often than not this is the method that I use to care for my hair.
  • Shampoo, focusing on the scalp. Do not use nails to scratch at the scalp and do not pile hair on head to scrub.
  • Rinse hair.
  • Conditioner, focusing mostly on the ends. Leave conditioner in hair for about five minutes.
  • Rinse hair.
  • (Here, some treatments like ACV's are done from time to time.)
  • Apply leave in conditioner to hair once shower is done.
  • Allow hair to dry. In the winter, I use a hair dryer [not on hot] if the weather is very cold. In general, I allow my hair to air dry to minimize damage.
  • Apply hair oil to the hair to increase the shine and give the hair some moisture.

Swimming Hair Care Routine
Because I am a swimmer, my hair care routine had to change in order to preserve my hair in the face of harsh chemicals and sea water. Before I even go swimming, I have ways I protect my hair. If I am swimming for exercise, I tend to use a swim cap. If I am mermaid-swimming, my hair can vary depending on if I am filming or having a photo shoot or not. Below are some ways to protect the hair while you go swimming.
  • Swim caps. They come in many sizes and do come in latex free!
  • Buns and Braids. This reduces surface area.
  • Soak your hair in fresh water first to minimize the amount of pool/ sea water your hair will absorb.
  • Put an oil [like olive oil] in your hair to help protect it from pool/sea water. Do not use so much you cause an oil spill. ;)
  • Put in a conditioner into your hair to protect it from pool/sea water. Again, do not use too much. You do not want globs of it floating away around your head.

In general, the routine to wash is the same but there is just an addition of a few more steps with a few more products. I wash my hair as soon as I can after I swim. At the gym,  I will wash my hair partly there and then again at home or just wait until I get home where the water quality is better.
  • Shampoo with Swimminer's Shampoo
  • Rinse
  • Condition with Swimmer's Conditioner
  • Shampoo with normal shampoo
  • Rinse
  • Normal conditioner, sometimes more than one time. Let the conditioner stay in the hair upwards of ten minutes.
  • Rinse
  • [ACV treatments if necessary]
  • Leave-in conditioner
  • Oils once hair is dry

Styling for Protection
The ways in which I style my hair usually are a means to protect it. Buns and braids keep the hair together and protected from the dangers of snagging on things, catching on things, drawing too much attention (usually negative), from being touched without permission (you'd be surprised how often that happens), people pulling on it (thought braids do little to help here), and cats thinking I have gotten them a new toy (again, braids not so much here.)

This does not mean that I do not wear my hair down. You wear it up to make sure it looks its best when you want to wear it down. Something that some people fail to understand when it comes to long hair is that you are not growing it to impress anyone else; it is for you. Even the hair styles you wear it up in should be ones that you like. Don't like buns and only like braids? Fine, wear braids! It is all up to you. Below is a list of some of the more common styles that my hair is put in to protect it. Some of the styles are represented by their name versus what they are (ie Spanish Lady vs Rope Braid.)
  • Cinnamon Bun & Variations
  • Knot Bun
  • Nautilus Bun
  • Rose Bun
  • Braided Bun
  • Sock Bun
  • English Braid
  • Luana Braids (Bunned and unbunned)
  • Hawser Braid
  • Rope Braid
  • Rapunzel Braid
  • Stardust Style
  • Medieval Roll (with ponytail or braid)
  • Spanish Lady

Favorite Products
The product that you use should be one that works best for you. Some people can do wonderfully with one product, but other people will have little to no success with that same product. It is about finding what works best for your hair. There is a lot of trial and error in finding products. To find them, try buying trial sizes or have other uses for the shampoos and conditioners that didn't work (such as body wash or shaving conditioner.) The products below are ones that work well with my hair. I have found these products over much trial and error, but these ones are always good for me. Products with a star (*) are the ones currently being used.

Shampoo
  • LUSH Godiva Shampoo Bar*
  • LUSH Karma Komba Shampoo Bar
  • Garnier Sleek & Shine Shampoo
  • One n' Only Argan Shampoo (Expensive! Probably will not buy again based on that.)

Conditioner
  • Herbal Essence Long Term Relationship Conditioner*
  • Jason Natural Jojoba Long and Strong for Healthy Hair Growth*
  • Garnier Sleek & Shine Conditioner
  • Organix Renewing Moroccan Argan Oil Conditioner Treatment
  • Ever Pure Smooth Conditioner Treatment

Oils
  • One n' Only Argan Oil* (Most used and most loved)
  • African Pride Olive Miracle* (Scalp only)
  • The Body Shop Grapeseed Oil
  • Organix Nourishing Coconut Milk Oil

Leave-ins & Sprays
  • Herbal Essence Long Term Relationship Leave-in Conditioner*
  • LUSH R&B Moisture Leave-in Conditioner*
  • Aussie Anti-Breakage Spray
  • Garnier Triple Nutrition Spray
  • Dove Nourishing Oils Spray
  • Aubrey Organics Primrose Tangle-Go
  • Suave Kids Twirlin' Swirlberry Soft & Smooth Detangler & Conditioner
Other Hair Items
  • Tangle Teezer*
  • Boar Bristle Brush
  • Detangle Comb
  • Satin Sleep Cap*

Conclusion
The care of one's hair is up to them. What works for one person may not work for another, but it is also a good place to start for someone who may not know where to turn to first. Try seeing what your hair needs and then get products or do treatments to fulfill those needs.

Always remember that long hair is for you. It is something that will take time, effort, and lots of love and care to achieve. Do not let the petty jealousies of others change your mind.

Long hair is a gift, not a burden.

Oceans of Hair

A question I seem to get asked a lot is "Why the long hair?" I have
several reasons as to why I want long hair, but some are more important than others.

When I was a preteen I had pixie length hair. I kept it like this for a few years because It was easy for me to take care of. Then one day I was confronted about going into the ladies bathroom. An older woman lectured me about being a proper gentleman. I was embarrassed, but I kept myself together and told her "I'm a girl!" before I walked into the restroom to do my business. I probably embarrassed her more than I was, but I knew I had to grow my hair out at least a little so I would not be seen as a boy anymore.

Another small thing that pushed me into long hair was I saw an article that said women who were overweight had to keep their hair either very short or very long to keep them looking thin. I knew I wasn't going to go short again, so I knew I would go long. To me at that time, very long hair meant back to my butt where it had been when I was younger. My aunt told me later that very long in the fashion world is past your shoulders, and I should have stopped there. So why did I keep going?

Long hair to me is the manifestation of several positive aspects of the self. It shows that you have patience, are gentle (since hair can be fragile), are not afraid to invest time in things (be they hair or otherwise), have creativity since it takes some form of it to put your hair up in different braids and buns and other styles, and long hair is a symbol of beauty. Classic paintings have women with long, flowing hair and women who are considered beautiful have long hair in general. Does this mean women with short hair or pixie hair are not desired and not beautiful? Of course not, but in my own eyes, and thankfully the eyes of my fiancé, the longer the hair is (so long as it is in good condition) the more beautiful the person is aesthetically, no matter if they are fat, thin, old, young, or any of the other things that make us diverse.

In recent decades, the popular culture has played on keeping hair short. It spreads myths that long hair makes you look older, is hard to care for, and is impossible to do anything with. Despite the war on long hair declared by the media and it's 'fashion gurus,' thousands of women and men grow their hair long. For some it is religious reasons, for others cultural reasons, and still for others it is just what they feel 'beautiful' looks like.

How long am I growing? My goal is to get to at least the floor. Permitting, I might grow longer than that to see how far I can, something that is called "terminal length" by the long hair community as a whole. We shall see how far I get. :)